Some people are just clueless to what they say or write. I'm very particular about this, and in my opinion, if you can change your sentence into something that sounds nicer, then by all means, change it.
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Some people speak without thinking, which is something that I find rather amusing. Have you ever been in a situation like this:
A: Oh, you look weird. Tired is it?
B: ...
A: *realises that B is pissed off by his words* I mean..why so tired? *smiles*
Yes, I know, this is not something serious, but then, in B's eyes, A is already at fault, why? Because of his choice of words. C'mon, who in the world starts a greeting with the word 'weird' in it, and he's referring to the person's appearance?? There is nothing positive about 'weird' appearances.
Even if A's intention was good, B does not think so.
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Why can't some people change their words so that they do not piss other people off? Why can't they construct better sentences, instead of just typing or writing what was on their mind at that instant.
Besides changing their words, some people should also practice what they preach. In my eyes, if someone is doing something that contradicts what they say, he/she is just an embarrassment.
An embarrassment to the individual, their kind, and sometimes, their own religion.
I know of a friend who talks in a holy manner when he's around my friends and I. Oh, and he seems like the holiest amongst his own friends too. Let me call him TheFaker.
TheFaker is a friend of mine, yes he is, but he's an example of someone who do not practice what he preaches. In front of the majority of us, he would tell us that our actions are unholy, our words are not words used by 'good people' and so on.
When someone says stuff like that, he gives the impression that he follows what he says..however, when he gets excited or hyped up about something, all the 'mcb-knn-ccb' words come out from his mouth and it slides out as natural as swimming is to a fish. I don't know about you, but I can't have the same respect as I have for people like The Faker.
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Another example of people who talk without thinking is TheInsulter. Yes, TheInsulter is also a friend of mine, sad case right?
TheInsulter is just like his name, everything he says, it sounds like an insult, even if he didn't mean it to be as such. The words that he chooses are rude, it's not his tone, it's his word. Surely he does not mean it that way all the time, but TheInsulter just do not know how much impact his words have on the people around him.
TheInsulter: Oh hey, I smell oranges. Smells good.
Me: I think it's coming from this stall. Would you like to go in and take a look?
TheInsulter: Why? Are you going to get me the oranges?
Me: ...
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It all goes down to how you construct your sentence, throw in a 'please' and 'thank you' once in a while. The ones who receive it will definitely remember you for this. Isn't a positive attention better than a negative one?
When someone ask you a question, answer it politely. Nothing bad can come from being polite. Use the correct words, and don't try top be funny or lame in your answers. Oh sure, you might think your answers are funny, but people are actually laughing at you, not with you. You like to be the joke rather than tell the joke?
If you have an opinion about something, speak it. No point agreeing to other people's opinion, and then complain later that you do not agree of their words and actions. Not only do you look like TheFaker, you also look like a Two-facedSkunk, only there to agree so that other people will think that everyone is on the same page.
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I hate it when people do not speak their mind. I know, sometimes, they are just keeping it to themselves, since they do not want to hurt the other person..however, if you do not agree, but go along with it, it will get worse in time.
Imagine you have a problem with the word 'fat'. You don't like people to use that word on others, but you do not voice out your own opinion. After a long time of your friends using the word 'fat', you finally snap and start to scold your friends in public for using that word.
In the eyes of your friend, this is not about you and your valued opinion any more, it shows them that you are a Two-facedSkunk, why? You're scolding them for something that they thought everyone agrees on (in this case, the usage of the word 'fat'), but in the end, you do not, and they ended up being humiliated by you in public.
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It's a sad thing to have people like these in my life, but what to do? I've told them about what I think about them, but they still won't change for their betterment..friends huh? pfft~